Day 238-Motivational Monday-Why You Should Stick To Your Routine

Good morning everyone! I hope everyone had a safe night and did not wake up to damage caused by last night’s storms.

Do you have and stick to a daily routine? I know that if I veer too far away from my own, I start slacking off, things go undone and in the end, I will not accomplish my goals.

I checked out an article on The Spruce and they did an interview with Dr Heidi Grant Halvorson who is a social psychologist, speaker and author of the book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals. According to Dr Halvorson;

Q: How specific should people be when establishing goals?

A: Being specific with your routine is important because if your plan is too vague, they tend to never get acted on.

Q: Should you log daily progress?

A: Monitoring your progress is important because you need to have a pretty good idea how well you’re doing with respect to your goals in order to stay motivated, and to know when to try a new approach because the one you are using isn’t working. Using a calendar or journal is a good way to keep track of your goals.

Q: What if your routine includes something you don’t want to do, like jogging?

A: Reframe the activity in terms of the “bigger picture” goal it is serving. So like jogging is being done to help you stay healthy or lose weight. Thinking in those terms why you’re doing something unpleasant can give you a real motivational boost.

Q: How long does it take to establish a new habit?

A: There’s no way to know exactly because it depends on many factors, a person’s distractions, personality, how complicated the new behaviors are etc. Good news is, keep it up and it will eventually become a habit which will absolutely get easier over time.

Q: Do you recommend checklists for routines?

A: Both checklists and if-then plans (if I am in situation x, then I will do action y) make remembering things a lot easier.

My own routine is usually to get up as soon as I wake up, if I allow myself to go back to sleep, there goes time I could have used to get something done. Go make coffee, feed the dogs and get to work in the office. If it’s a work day, I work until time to get ready to go to work. If not, I work a few hours, stop to eat, then get back to it. I do make myself take breaks and/or run errands. This is how it has to be until I reach my goals. I am more efficient and productive in the mornings, in the afternoon, there are too many distractions. That’s not to say I never get work done in the afternoons/evenings, its just more likely earlier in the day.

Knowing yourself and what you want to achieve will keep you motivated to stick to your routine. If I make a new goal, to get more toned for instance, I will set a new routine of exercise to try and reach that goal faster. I could fit in a walk three times a week in the afternoon for example. Even a 30 minute walk is better than nothing and gets me closer to my goal of toning my legs.

I hope I’ve helped you answer the question, if you have more or any suggestions to share, please leave a comment!

Join me tomorrow when I share for MET-My Essay Tuesday and I’ll see you all then, on the patio. 🙂


Day 114-Thoughts on Community-NaNoWriMo update

Oxford dictionaries define community as:

  1. A group of people living in the same place or having  a particular characteristic in common (Haltom City’s Vietnamese Community) for example

  2. A feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests and goals. (The sense of community that organized religion can provide)

The first definition I relate to say, living in a trailer or rv park. It’s a small community, where all the folks there share a common thing-they live in a trailer or recreational vehicle; i.e.; they can all relate to something. They share a common living space and can congregate, talk about it, share experiences and ideas, help each other out.

The second definition I relate to the blogging world. It is the sense of community with these folks where one can share feelings, help provide a service, commiserate with each other, that makes writers want to stay. We fellowship with each other much like people in church do. Sans the covered dishes and physical hand holding, we still feel a sense of caring from the others in the group. It’s a community I’m proud to be a part of and hope to belong to for a very long time. I enjoy having all of you to talk to and welcome the feedback you provide. Some people provide a service with their blogs, others treat them like a journal and still others provide a friendly space for people to share their experiences, feelings and advice. I’m not sure how my blog helps all of you, I just hope it does in some small way.

I bring all this up because this week is all about family, another community of sorts, where we all gather to eat and give thanks for the blessings we have been bestowed. It’s a time for sharing and caring, a precursor to the magical giving spirit of Christmas. A time for showing our love and appreciation to each other by the cooking and eating of food, a re-creation, if you will, of the first meal in America put on by the Pilgrims.

We used to travel to Mississippi at this time of year for a family reunion and Thanksgiving all rolled into one. I miss those days and the fuzzy feeling I got from my little community of aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. They are distant now, raising their own families, and life is so busy for everyone. It’s sad that all we have is social media to keep us in touch with one another. It seems the only other thing that brings us all together (those who are left) is a death in the family. The last time I saw any of my Miss. family was two years ago or so, when my Mom passed away.  It is sad really, and I’m just as much to blame for not keeping in touch. We traveled there to see my sister in Biloxi, although we didn’t (we ended up visiting my niece) because she (my sister) was in mourning for her “other” mother. Later on, after Mom passed, there was a family reunion on my Dad’s side, and I saw a whole different community of people, some I’d never met before. It felt good and strong, coming together with all these people and we promised to stay in touch. We talk a little more than before-on social media of course, but that’s about all.

So, we gather with those closest to us come Thanksgiving, my dad, brother and two sons that live here in the area, and Dave’s side, Claudette (his mom), his brother and wife, and his sister-in-law and her daughter and hubby.  Our family, our community is shrinking, where one time it seemed it was growing out of hand. Now that some of the other kids are grown and moved away, some of our people are sick and cannot attend, and some have passed on, we truly need to cherish and nurture the ones we are with and cherish the time we all have left together on this earth.

Likewise, we need to nurture our blogging community-share our stories, reach out to each other in times of need, and give out the information that we need to help one another reach success. I hope everyone reading this has a safe and wonderful Thanksgiving, I hope you achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself and I hope you are spending quality time with the community you live in.  As for my goals, this month it’s all about the writing because I am woefully short of my promised 50,000 word count. I need to turn and burn today because as of yesterday, my word count was 23,031. Ten more days to the finish line folks- can I make it?  We will just have to see. I have a few assignments that, if I really put my nose to the grindstone, might get me passed the halfway mark. Wish me luck, stay warm and dry, and happy food prep to everyone! We may pop a ham in the oven while we still have one, that will be our contribution along with the afore mentioned relish tray supplies. Whatever else gets accomplished may just have to do some in someone else’s kitchen- seeing as we don’t really have one right now. 😉

What are your thoughts on community?  Where are you in your goals?  Sharing is caring- put your comments in the box and let me hear it people! I’ll be waiting on the patio! 🙂